Say NO With Confidence!

A Workshop for Parents to End People Pleasing

If you identify as a people pleaser, you may feel… 

  • like the people in your life don’t appreciate you enough

  • like your kindness and generosity are often taken advantage of

  • like you need to agree with whoever is in front of you because you’re afraid of conflict or you want their admiration

  • like you had to change a part of yourself so you could fit in with the crowd

  • like you need to apologize for someone else’s feelings and behaviors

  • like saying No is a difficult and potentially wrong thing to do

  • like your worth is dependent upon how others see you

  • like you’re depleted and there isn’t enough time to care for yourself, because you dedicate most of your time to others

It’s not a character flaw to be a people pleaser. The heart of the pleaser is usually consumed with kindness and compassion. People pleasers are often anxious about others’ opinions of them, and overly concerned with the thoughts, feelings, and needs of others.

People Pleasers are often extremely accommodating to their own fault. They are great friends, excellent listeners, and always available while asking for very little in return.

People pleasers often minimize their own needs and problems, which fuels resentment when others see them as highly competent and ‘never needing anyone’.

People pleasers are prone to burn out. They burn out in relationships, at work, and practically everywhere they feel pressured to please while also losing sight of themselves.

Despite the gargantuan efforts people pleasers make to show up for the people in their lives, they often struggle with feeling like they’re not good enough, perpetuating cycles of guilt, shame, and blame. 

It’s HARD being a people pleaser!

People Pleasers started off as Parent Pleasers.

If you were raised in a traditional parenting environment, most likely you were conditioned to please your parents.  How does typically this happen?  When parents praise us for being compliant, ‘good’ kids, and withdraw their affection when we misbehave, we learn very early on:

  • Being perfect gets me the attention I need.

  • Being bad makes me feel lonely, isolated, and unwanted.

Parental attention is critical for our social safety and survival. 

Did you hear things like:

  • Get good grades and make us proud!

  • Do your chores or you’ll get a punishment.

  • Follow my orders the first time, or else.

  • Serve your uncles coffee so they know you’re a good kid.

  • I wouldn’t have screamed if you would have just behaved the way I told you to!

These are just some examples of how your parents may have programmed you into excessive people-pleasing.  When we learn that behaving in a pleasing way is a vital form of currency to get our basic needs met in our primary relationships, we assume this is how we must behave in every relationship in order to survive.

You might have been raised to be a Parent Pleaser if you were conditioned to:

  • Serve your parent’s needs, emotions, and interests, especially at the expense of your own

  • Notice and attend to what enrages your parent and actively avoid it

  • Feel afraid of disappointing a parent

  • Feel ashamed if you let a parent down

  • Believe your parent’s emotions were your responsibility

Here's how people pleasing shows up with your kids

  • Feelings on Overdrive

    You may struggle to manage your kids emotions, so you work incredibly hard to appease them and avoid meltdowns. And if you have a challenging moment with them, you may assume it’s because you’re a complete and utter failure as a parent.

  • Hesitant on Boundaries

    You may struggle to set boundaries with your kids, because unconsciously you want them to like you. Plus, you really don’t want the conflict.

  • You're Overdoing It

    You may over-parent and do too much for your kids, costing them important opportunities for building confidence and competence. And you may feel like you can’t give enough to your kids, and thus you feel resentful.

Break the Cycle Starting TODAY!

Here's what you'll learn:

  • Make Space For Yourself: Gain key strategies for unmasking your inner people pleaser and better prioritizing your needs without guilt or shame.

  • Set Confident Boundaries: Learn how to say NO without fear and YES without obligation.

  • Transform from Pleaser to Provider: Teach your children how to problem-solve, resolve differences, see multiple perspectives, respect the needs of everybody, and set appropriate boundaries for themselves, without sacrificing yourself in the process.

Rave Reviews

Empowered & Confident that I Can Let Go of People Pleasing


I wanted to say a huge thank you for the teaching and wisdom you shared in Let Go of Your Inner People Pleaser. I ad so many "aha" moments, which have helped me understand my patterns more deeply. It was a really powerful shift. I can't believe how much information you packed in, but it was not overwhelming, because you relate it so clearly to the experiences we have as people pleasers everyday. I truly believe if all parents had access to the gifts you share here, the world would change rapidly. I found some of your messages affronting at first, but that was because these were the areas of my life I needed to pay attention to. I feel empowered to continue my life's work recovering from people pleasing and confident that I can avoid passing it all on to my daughter.

Life changing teachings

by Calla

Bryana's teachings, in general, have changed my parenting journey and ergo my life, and more importantly, my daughter's life. I am thankful everyday for what I've learned from this workshop. It's made a difference in my life.

More affordable than therapy

by Sonia

I was in therapy for about a year, but due to finances, had to stop going. Bryana's classes are more affordable than one-on-one therapy, and I'm already finding the core concepts and exercises to be applicable across all my relationships. I appreciate how accessible these teachings are.

Meet Your Instructor

The Conscious Mommy

Licensed Therapist, Mom of 2, and CEO & Founder of Conscious Mommy

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve spent the past 11 years with families who feel ineffective in how they parent. I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be that way for you!

Still Feeling Unsure?

Check out the free preview video for 3 actionable tips you can utilize immediately to let go of your inner people pleaser.

This is a 2 hour long pre-recorded workshop of a LIVE event. You will have access to the recording of this workshop for 365 days and can stop and start at your own pace. Upon purchase, a handout will be provided that outlines primary discussion topics, reflective questions, and space for note taking.

Disclaimer: Purchasing a workshop does not initiate any type of therapeutic relationship with Bryana Kappadakunnel. This one-time coaching workshop is not therapy and does not replace therapy.

Workshop Curriculum

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Common Questions

  • How is the Conscious Mommy framework different from other approaches?

    The Conscious Mommy framework starts with you, the parent. It is the only framework available that not only teaches parents tools to regulate their own emotions, but also helps parents gain deep insights as to *why* they're struggling in the first place. Through this knowledge, parents become more effective in how they parent their children. This approach is more than just 'say this/not that'. You will learn deep self-compassion, gentleness, and kindness. This will shift how you understand the meaning behind your child's behaviors, emotions, and needs.

  • Who is Bryana Kappadakunnel?

    The Conscious Mommy framework was designed by Bryana Kappadakunnel, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 10 years of training and experience in working with child-parent dyads. Endorsed as an Infant-Family Early Childhood Mental Health Specialist, Bryana brings a wealth of knowledge, expertise, and experience into her classes.

  • How do I access the workshop?

    Upon purchasing, you'll receive a welcome email. This will be your login. Upon logging in, you will see Conscious Discipline Do's and Dont's as one of your workshops. If you'll join me live: within the the course itself, there will be a Registration Link for Zoom. You'll fill out this link (approx. 20 seconds) and then you'll receive a secure zoom link for the webinar. If you join me after February 11th, 2023: the replay will be in your account.

  • How long do I have access to Conscious Mommy workshops?

    You'll have access to every workshop you enroll in for 365 days post the date of enrollment.

  • What's your return policy?

    We have a 30 day LOVE IT or LEAVE IT guarantee. If these teachings do not support you in the way that you need, please email us within 30 days of your enrollment for a full refund.

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